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What I Have Learned So Far
Many men will have the good fortune of becoming dads in 2013. For all of those new dads I offer this short list of what I’ve learned so far. I hope it helps you.
1 – You will lose lots of sleep. Believe every horror story about it because it is all true.
2 – Step into your new role as father and own it. Your child will only have one Dad and you are it.
3 – Allow yourself to be a little confused and angry once in a while about your new situation because at times it will be absurd. It’s a shocking and permanent change, and you cannot go back.
4 – Don’t ever assume your wife will handle something. She is just as overwhelmed as you are and she’s the one who actually had the baby.
5 – Get ready to come in second to your child – a very distant second. The bond with his mother is very strong and you may often feel isolated and useless. I’ve found that one solution to relieve this is to create your own traditions with your child. Challenge yourself to do unique things that will cultivate your own bond with him.
6 – Treat the mother of your children with respect. She is their mother and your children rely upon her greatly. They are watching what you do with her.
7 – During the moments you celebrate a milestone in your child’s life you are also going to mourn the loss of the way things were. It’s okay to take a moment to miss the crawling while you’re celebrating the walking. It will make you value this new stage of your child’s life even more.
8 – From the blood and terror of delivery through the sleep loss, the chaos of early morning crying, and the daily mess and muck of your baby, you are still capable of great acts of compassion. Never lose sight of that.
9 – Get away from your kids once in a while. Preserve a part of yourself that isn’t influenced by them. They may dominate your life but they aren’t your entire life. Kids need parents who are whole persons, not just their caretakers. Also, they will learn a lot about the world by watching what else you do in it.
10 – At random but frequent intervals give your daughter a hug and a kiss on the top of her head. Eventually those will come back to you and they will be some of the greatest moments of your life.
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